The Secret to Get Your Ex to Return Your Phone Calls
December 18, 2009 by admin
Filed under Relationships
Are there any ‘magic’ words that you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
It may sound hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
Pretty cool don’t you think?
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from people just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.
So in this article I am going to answer the question “How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”
BUT you need to be aware that in The Magic Of Making Up, you’ll find a complete strategy laid out. If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy, you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
What NOT to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works and worse still puts you in an awful ‘psychological’ position.
These usually fall into two categories.
Firstly, the PLEAD. This is where the message sounds like “John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
Secondly the EMERGENCY – “Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won’t go on and on…
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
So let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now before you call you need to do the “Set Up”, in other words figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing…but it needs to be plausible.
But more importantly…
2nd WARNING!
Please have an underlying strategy like you’ll find laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call. If you apply this technique without an underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying here is that what you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN!
What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?
December 18, 2009 by admin
Filed under Relationships
The Magic of Making Up System
Here are a few tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.
You are obviously dead serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is why you came to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally.
Are you calling your ex too much, constantly text messaging him or writing him e-mails? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, thinking that it is going to help you get your ex boyfriend back then you need to stop right now.
It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is totally senseless, and it will only make things worse.
So if you’re thinking ‘what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?’ you should follow this strategy instead.
You need to take an entirely fresh approach.
Start by breaking off all contact for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a difficult time, and it is going to call for discipline to prevent you from going back to your old ways.
During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, because you’re not pursuing him any longer. You may in fact become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling.
This is in reality something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is something that is not possible when you are smothering him.
You must remember that the key to this strategy and mending a break up is to work with human nature rather than trying to work against it.
If you are wondering “How can I get my ex boyfriend back”, now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.
Just keep yourself anchored and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded just why he loved you to begin with. Play hard to get (don’t over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will emerge on top.
And then you will stop asking yourself “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”