How To Get Women to Approach You
Did you read the title of this article properly? It’s not ‘how to approach women’, it’s how to get women to approach YOU’. A BIG difference!
I think you’re really going to like this because I’m going to share a little trick with you that really makes it easy to meet a woman.
Too often – in fact probably most of the time- guys are just too nervous to approach a girl because of all uncertainty that’s involved.
Think about it for a minute.
What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?
“Am I her type?”
“Does she have a boyfriend?”
“Will she find me attractive?”
“Maybe she’s too busy to meet anyone.”
“Will she be receptive to me talking to her?”
I’m sure you can think of at least 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.
If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it’s because of one thing:
UNCERTAINTY.
You don’t know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So you’re scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!
Well, don’t worry about this any more, because with this little trick I’m going to share with you, you’ll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.
This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! That includes you!
And it’s a 100% fear free tactic.
Ready for it? Good, because here it comes… Drum roll please!
***The Eye Contact Opener***
We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she’s open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she’ll be opening YOU!
So here’s what you do…
The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking at you.
When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is a subconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you’re locking onto will look around to scan the area.
When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you’ll be locked in eye contact.
When that happens, simply SMILE at her.
If she smiles back, guess what? She’s OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn’t, then move on to someone who is.
And when she does smile back, say “Hi!” And if she responds, you’re in! Go right into your opener.
I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).
Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say “Hi!” and then the rest is easy.
The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you’ll be surprised by the results.
The art of approaching
Now I’d like to take credit for coming up with that idea myself, but I didn’t. I got it from a book. Or an ebook to be more precise, you know one of those books you buy on the internet and download instantly.
It’s called ‘ The Art Of Approaching‘ by a guy who calls himself Thundercat.
Thundercat says it’s a ‘guidebook for men on how to easily meet, date, and attract women — even if you’re fat, bald, or ugly!’
It’s a good book, he’s very down to earth and quite funny in places and he spills the beans on how to meet, flirt with, and attract any woman you want.
Even if you’re fat, bald AND ugly 
If you want to get more women I strongly suggest you take a look at his book .
And if you don’t want the book , just follow the tip and next time you see a pretty girl you’d like to meet look her straight in the eye and see what happens.
You might just be surprised!
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Anders Tryka on Mon, 16th Feb 2009 2:28 pm
Nice article. I don’t know if Thundercat “came up” with that one but hey, I’m sure he has a great explanation on the application in the book, as you describe… It’s a great way to approach – and… well, YOU are still approaching, so it’s hardly about getting women to approach you?
The tactic you describe works extremely well in street or shop scenarios as it creates a feel of positive spontanuity to the situation.
Eye contact before opening is important in a lot of scenarios, except when you want to put on a display of being surprised, or when you actually want her to open you, in which case you do not even need eye contact, … A favorite tactic of mine is to position myself next to the girl I want to talk with, an then focus on building rapport with her while I am talking with someone else – I.E. the bartender. The second time she glances over I’ll just look at her and go “what?” with a smile. That will ALWAYS happen as you focus on developing rapport, … and if you DON’T do anything after the second glance, she will open you in more than 50 % of your attempts.