How To Increase The Chemistry In Romantic Relationships
Do you think that chemistry in relationships is something that “just happens?” If you do, then the truth might surprise you. Of course, it’s highly unlikely that you can create chemistry where none exists, but if that initial spark is there, there’s plenty you can do to fan the flames.
Here are some tips you can use to increase the chemistry in your relationships.
Understand what chemistry is
If you’ve never really felt strong chemistry with another person, it can be hard to get an idea of what it is. What most people call chemistry is a sense that the two of you are just meant to be together – made for each other as some would say. You’re both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other.
While this might have something to do with looks and pheromones, by far the greatest part of it is mental. It comes from you and your partner having the same beliefs, dreams, and maybe even habits and pet peeves.
Develop a rapport
Before you can build up any chemistry, you need to have a good rapport first. If you’ve only seen each other for one or two dates, it’s quite likely that rapport may not quite be there yet. To create it, look for a conversation topic you can really bond over. Just make sure it’s something pleasant and low stress, though. You may discover you both love discussing ways to end famine in Africa, but that subject doesn’t help your partner associate you with pleasure and fun.
Use humor
Laughter is not only fun, it also makes us feel at ease with another person. You don’t have to be a professional comedian. Even an attempt at humor in your own style can work. Just keep it clean and neutral so you don’t offend your date right off the bat.
Adrenaline is your friend
Studies have shown that couples who met in an exciting situation – whether it was pleasurable or not – tend to find each other more attractive, a lot more so than couples who met under what you could call normal circumstances. It works because the mind associates any excitement with the person we’re with at the time and mistakes it for physical attraction.
You can take advantage of this by planning a date that will get the adrenaline pumping like a scary movie, a roller coaster ride, or even whitewater rafting.
Express yourself
It’s impossible to have chemistry in relationships with people who don’t know the real you. Rather than keeping your opinions to yourself – in the hope that you can hide anything your partner might not like about you – make it a point to share your thoughts and feelings about important issues. Sometimes just a single off-hand comment can make your date really fall for you.
Enhance the physical
You may find people who will tell you that one way to increase chemistry in a relationship is to touch your date on the knee or arm early on. You want to be careful with that, though. Get physical too early on and you could just end up turning your partner off. Instead, start by just talking about what physical features you each find most attractive in the opposite sex and then using the info you gain to your advantage.
Chemistry in relationships may be mysterious and hard to control, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help the chemistry along a little. Make sure you start with a good rapport, throw in a little humor and excitement, and you’ll be off to a sound start.
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