The Secret to Get Your Ex to Return Your Phone Calls
December 18, 2009 by admin
Filed under Relationships
Are there any ‘magic’ words that you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
It may sound hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
Pretty cool don’t you think?
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from people just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.
So in this article I am going to answer the question “How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”
BUT you need to be aware that in The Magic Of Making Up, you’ll find a complete strategy laid out. If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy, you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
What NOT to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works and worse still puts you in an awful ‘psychological’ position.
These usually fall into two categories.
Firstly, the PLEAD. This is where the message sounds like “John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
Secondly the EMERGENCY – “Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won’t go on and on…
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
So let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now before you call you need to do the “Set Up”, in other words figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing…but it needs to be plausible.
But more importantly…
2nd WARNING!
Please have an underlying strategy like you’ll find laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call. If you apply this technique without an underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying here is that what you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN!
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