A Woman’s Guide to Writing a Great Dating Site Profile

So you’ve joined an online dating service or two and now it’s time to write that all-important profile, the one that’s going to attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams. But where do you start?

Maybe you think that writing isn’t something that you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing you need do is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like and maybe someday love YOU…..THE REAL YOU!

Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you didn’t like. For example, if he smoked in the house and you hated it, you’re not going to like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Highlight the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Describe the things that are really important in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you, if not join you, in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is really important because the photo is the very first thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

How to Get the Most From Online Dating

Online Dating Basics

Online dating is not as simple as it looks, you need to know how to go about it in order to get the best out of it. Unfortunately quite a lot of people who decided to give online dating a try ended up with their fingers burnt.

Here are a few pointers to consider when you start off online dating.

Getting started in online dating
There’s an old adage ‘fools rush in where angels fear to tread’ which is certainly true here. It’s always best to be cautious when you’re in unfamiliar uncharted territory. You need to plan before you actually go out there and start showing your cards.

Just because the world and his wife can type out whatever they want in a chat room doesn’t mean that you have to do the same.

One of the benefits of the internet is that anybody can use it. Unfortunately one of the drawbacks of the internet is also that anybody can use it. There are a lot of nice people using the Internet, but just as in the offline world, there are some not so nice people too.

So where do you start?

The first tip I would like to give you is NOT to go straight away into a singles’ chat room and try to find somebody who would interest you. We all know that most of these chat rooms are flooded with people who have only one thing on their mind – sex.

So instead of going into a singles’ chat room, what you could do is to try the whole thing out from a different angle. You could try working backwards.

In other words, decide what you’re looking for, and then go look for it.

It’s more than just looks

Sit for a minute or two and try and think about the things that interest you and things that you would find interesting in a person.

By ‘things’ I am not talking about physical attributes. I am not referring to something that might interest you in a person’s physical appearance. A distinction needs to be made between a serious relationship and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, the importance is always for the physical attributes. We are more concerned with what the person looks like and what the person has been endowed with.

On the other hand, if we have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not so important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor over here. Along with that there are certain qualities that obviously we will be looking out for. We are talking about qualities of the mind. After all, beauty is only skin-deep!

This idea might sound strange, but it is actually true. The idea is that it is possible to grow to like the looks of a person. Once you find the character of the person agreeable you will start liking the person as a whole. It is entirely possible to fall in love with a person if the person does not look like a movie star. That is one of the tricks that nature plays.

There are many people who insist on taking a look at the other person’s picture before actually committing to a relationship. They might have their reasons of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on looks is more suitable for a casual relationship. It is bound to sizzle off after some time. After all, how long can you keep staring at a person? And what happens if the person doesn’t stare back at you?

Or even worse, what happens if you find the person staring at another person? Looks may be important, but they certainly are not the most important thing and should never be used as the deciding factor if you are thinking about a serious relationship.

So what are your interests? What do you enjoy doing? And what are your dislikes?

Dislikes are just as important, or even more important than likes. We all have to make compromises here and there, but if we start off by condoning things which we genuinely dislike, one way or another the day will come when the relationship will end up in tears.

Only after you’ve considered the kind of person you’re looking for should you start using an online dating site.

How to Write a Dating Profile

Writing your dating profile

So you’ve taken the plunge and decided to join an online dating site. Congratulations, you are in the 21st century where meeting people via an online dating club is becoming more and more common and accepted.

Now you need to put together your profile so you can attract the kind of person you’re looking for. And you’re probably wondering what to say and how to say it.

The first thing that you should do is take out a pencil and paper and write down the raw details about yourself. By raw details we are talking about things like your age, your height and your weight.

This is the skeleton which we are going to build on. And when we have added enough flesh and blood to this backbone, why even you will be impressed by your profile! But first let’s steer clear of some pitfalls which most people fall into.
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