A Woman’s Guide to Writing a Great Dating Site Profile

So you’ve joined an online dating service or two and now it’s time to write that all-important profile, the one that’s going to attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams. But where do you start?

Maybe you think that writing isn’t something that you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing you need do is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like and maybe someday love YOU…..THE REAL YOU!

Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you didn’t like. For example, if he smoked in the house and you hated it, you’re not going to like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Highlight the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Describe the things that are really important in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you, if not join you, in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is really important because the photo is the very first thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

An Irreverent Look at Dating Sites

The rules of engagement on this site are as follows: You have to have been voted at least a 7 (on a scale of 1 to 10) to get full access to the database. Or, you can just be talented and have an annual income over $200,000. Also, as they’re seeking intelligent members, they warn that if they find out you have an IQ below 100, you will be kicked out. Don’t like their terms? Just write to member “bite me.”

Thank Goodness, SexyAds let me join, warts and all. No doubt, they have recognized some value somewhere, even if it’s just within my cheezy columns.

The goal, this new site says, is to create a vast database of the world’s most good looking, rich and superficial people. The news piece featured one of their members, a beautiful woman, saying she felt sorry for the ugly people, but cooed, “Who am I to decide who is pretty or ugly?” Then, she walked off into the palm-silhouetted sunset with her new hunk.

The station anchors presenting the story, said that the exclusivity of the site had been likened to those that only allow certain racial or religious members, and that this site’s rules make it no different.

Maybe so. I guess it’s no crime for pretty people to want to date someone up to their own standards, instead of wasting time responding to people they’d never be interested in. But, if you think about it, there may be whole segments that they may be sorry they’re missing. Read more