Dating Tip – Confidence is Everything
In the dating world, just like everywhere else, confidence is everything. Your confident attitude – not to be confused with arrogance or being cocky – will be fundamental to attracting dates and meeting people. If you have the feeling that you have little self confidence or you have issues with self-esteem, then I wouldn’t be surprised if right now you are shaking your head in dismay and thinking that if confidence is going to be the key to your dating life, then you already have a problem.
Real confidence is developed by trying new things, irrespective of whether you fail or not. Eventually you will learn and succeed – confidence is not increased by doing nothing.
So what if you’re not Brad Pitt, neither is anyone else apart from him. And let’s face it, it’s not very likely that the next woman you date is going to be Angelina Jolie.
What you need do is capitalize on what you’ve got going for yourself and quit comparing yourself to other people. Confidence comes from recognizing your own strengths and making the most of them. What you need to do is look at yourself and determine your own best qualities so that you can take advantage of them.
Here are some good ways you can boost your self-confidence:
- Take some time to honestly take stock of what’s good about you. A cautionary note – if you find when you’re doing this that you’re picking yourself to pieces and only finding faults, you’re on the wrong track. If you’re doing this, then stop putting yourself down and find some of your good points. For example maybe you’ve got a great smile, a wonderful sense of humor, expressive eyes, brains, or are a great cook.
Don’t just look at your physical body, think about stuff like your personality traits, the hobbies you enjoy and excel at, or your natural ability to make people around you feel at ease.
Make a list of all the things that are cool about you – nothing is too insignificant or outrageous – these are the things that set you apart from the crowd and make you worth dating – you can build confidence around these things. If you’re still struggling and can’t think of what your best characteristics and talents are, then ask your friends and loved ones.
- Don’t forget that if the women you date are intelligent and nice, they’re going to realize that you’re not perfect and neither are they. What if she doesn’t like every single thing about you? This doesn’t mean anything.
If there are enough things about you that she likes, she’s going to overlook your imperfections. This goes both ways and it’s just the way dating has always worked. If she’s looking for absolute perfection in a man she’s never going to be happy, and you certainly don’t want her anyway.
- Project confidence. Confidence is projected first by body language and then by how you speak to her. You’ll project an air of confidence by looking relaxed and comfortable. This means standing or sitting straight, but not being too stiff.
Eye contact and a smile are of paramount importance. If you shift your position every few seconds, avoid making eye contact, slouch and generally seem distracted, she’s going to think that you’re not interested or you have something to hide.
Whatever you do, don’t mumble. Speak clearly and positively because this exudes confidence. Smile but don’t overdo it so you look like a goon
Becoming more confident will require that you take stock of your good qualities and come to the realization that no-one is perfect, meaning that you can stop worrying about it.
Being confident is one of the most important keys when it comes to landing dates and one day finding Mrs Right. If you need to practice being confident, then so be it.
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